Creating A Feedback Culture

Over the course of my career, I’ve learned to be okay with getting things wrong.       Not because it feels good (it doesn’t), but because every mistake creates an opportunity to learn and grow. And because it means someone trusted me enough to tell me when I missed the mark. That kind of honesty feels increasingly rare—especially in a world where AI is telling people exactly what they want to hear and where people increasingly gravitate toward information that confirms their beliefs.      That’s why I think one of the most valuable skills you can cultivate is this: Find people who will give you tough feedback.      Across my time at Microsoft, the Gates Foundation, and Pivotal, the moments that shaped me the most weren’t the wins. They were the times when someone I trusted pulled me aside and gave me feedback I needed to hear. These conversations helped me see what I’d missed and rethink how I was showing up, which made me a better leader. But they only happened because the people around me knew they could be honest, and in fact, I expected them to be. You can’t grow—or help your teams grow—if you act like you’re the only one with all the answers.      I’ve seen this in every place I’ve worked. The leaders who made the biggest impact weren’t the ones who got it right all the time. They were the ones who created the conditions for honesty. Their teams felt free to surface new ideas, ask tough questions, and admit their mistakes. And those leaders were humble enough to hear feedback about themselves—and then take the steps to do things differently.       My advice on how to build this skill? Seek out colleagues and mentors you can trust to give you honest feedback. Ask for it often. Be vulnerable—not defensive—and take the opportunity to understand what you didn’t see before. It will transform the way you learn, lead, and build teams that thrive. #SkillsontheRise 

At Radical Candor, I often hear the question, "How do I know if my feedback is landing?" The answer is simple but not always easy: Radical Candor is measured not at your mouth, but at the listener’s ear. It’s not about what you said, it’s about how the other person heard it and whether it led to meaningful dialogue and growth. Before you start giving feedback, remember the Radical Candor order of operations: get feedback before you give it. The best way to understand how another person thinks is to ask them directly and reward their candor. Next, give praise that is specific and sincere. This helps remind you what you appreciate about your colleagues, so when you do offer criticism, you can do it in the spirit of being helpful to someone you care about. When giving feedback, start in a neutral place. Don't begin at the outer edge of Challenge Directly, as this might come across as Obnoxious Aggression. Just make sure you're above the line on Care Personally and clear about what you're saying. Pay attention to how the other person responds - are they receptive, defensive, sad, or angry? Their reaction will guide your next steps. If someone becomes sad or angry, this is your cue to move up on the Care Personally dimension. Don't back off your challenge - that leads to Ruinous Empathy. Instead, acknowledge the emotion you're noticing: 'It seems like I've upset you.' Remember that emotions are natural and inevitable at work. Sometimes just giving voice to them helps both people cope better. If someone isn't hearing your feedback or brushing it off, you'll need to move further out on Challenge Directly. This can feel uncomfortable, but remember - clear is kind. You might say, 'I want to make sure I'm being as clear as possible' or 'I don't feel like I'm being clear.' Use 'I' statements and come prepared with specific examples. Most importantly, don't get discouraged if feedback conversations sometimes go sideways. We tend to remember the one time feedback went wrong and forget the nine times it helped someone improve and strengthened our relationship. Focus on optimizing for those nine successes rather than avoiding the one potential difficult conversation. Creating a culture of feedback takes time and practice. Each conversation is an opportunity to get better at both giving and receiving feedback. When you get it right, feedback becomes a powerful tool for building stronger relationships and achieving better results together. What’s one small adjustment you’ve made to give or receive better feedback? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

How you receive feedback Determines how successful you become (in career and life). 4 proven tips to help you gracefully accept the gift of feedback: 1/ Listen actively Why: By approaching feedback with curiosity, you show a willingness to listen to understand (vs. to respond) the other person's perspective. How: Maintain eye contact, nod to acknowledge understanding, and wait until the person has finished speaking before responding. Remember, listening doesn't mean you agree with everything. "Thank you for sharing your thoughts on my presentation. I'm curious to learn more. Can you elaborate on the areas you think need improvement and what advice you have on how I can approach these differently?" 2/ Seek diverse perspectives Why: Asking for feedback from different people gives you a clearer picture of what you’re doing well and where you can improve. Plus, it helps you spot patterns in how others see your work. How: After receiving feedback on risk management from one person, reach out to others for additional perspective. "I'm looking to improve the quality of my risk management and reporting within my program. Do you have any advice for me in this area? Your input will help me de-risk execution and provide more accurate representation to stakeholders." 3/ Take time to process and reflect Why: Feedback can sting at first contact. Taking time to process it helps you manage your emotional response and consider it objectively. You can then identify key takeaways and develop a plan for implementing changes. How: "I appreciate your feedback on my communication style. I want to take some time to reflect on your suggestions and consider how to incorporate them into my interactions with the team. Can we schedule a follow-up meeting to discuss my action plan next week?" 4/ Express gratitude and close the loop Why: Expressing gratitude shows that you value the person's time and effort in providing feedback. Following up proves you’re serious about improving. How: "Thank you for sharing your feedback on my project estimations. Your input on factoring dependency review timelines has given me valuable perspective. Attached is the revised proposal based on your suggestions. I welcome any additional feedback you may have." PS: Feedback is not all-or-nothing. Even if you don't agree with everything, there's usually something valuable to take away. PPS: How gracefully you handle feedback directly correlates with whether others will give it to you (again). Image Credit: Roberto Ferraro

Great leaders aren’t great because they’re perfect. They’re great because they learn fast. This is important as we approach the performance feedback season. And receiving feedback starts with the right mindset. Early in my career, I feared feedback. I overprepared, overexplained, and tried to prove I was doing things right. I thought feedback was a verdict. I was wrong. My growth took off only when I realized that progress is directly tied to how well you learn from feedback. Once I shifted from defending my past to improving my future, everything clicked. Today, I look forward to feedback. Not because it’s easy but because it shows me where to focus. That’s how I get better. Here is what works for me:  First, I don’t try to fix everything. Pick 1-2 themes. Focus beats overwhelm. Second, I share my feedback - all of it, with my team. It builds trust and shows that I am taking my growth seriously.  Third, I make it actionable. I have a plan on how I’ll improve this week, this month, this quarter. I then measure progress to iterate. Feedback isn’t something to survive. It is the breakfast for champions. How are you planning to grow with feedback this year?

Excellent tips here illustrating how a subtle change in tone can have a massive influence upon how your message is received. 1) Acknowledge Delays with Gratitude "Sorry for the late reply…" "Thank you for your patience." 2) Respond Thoughtfully, Not Reactively "This is wrong." "I see your point. Have you considered [trying alternative]?" "Thank you for sharing this—I appreciate your insights." 3) Use Subject Lines That Get to the Point "Update" "Project X: Status Update & Next Steps" 4) Set the Tone with Your First Line "Hey, quick question…" "Hi [Name], I appreciate you. I wanted to ask about…" 5) Show Appreciation, Not Acknowledgment "Noted." "Thank you for sharing this—I appreciate your insights." 6) Frame Feedback Positively "This isn’t good enough." "This is a great start. Let’s refine [specific area] further." 7) Lead with Confidence "Maybe you could take a look…" "We need [specific task] completed by [specific date]." 8) Clarify Priorities Instead of Overloading "We need to do this ASAP!" "Let’s prioritize [specific task] first to meet our deadline." 9) Make Requests Easy to Process "Can you take a look at this?" "Can you review this and share your feedback by [date]?" 10) Be Clear About Next Steps "Let’s figure it out later." "Next steps: I’ll handle X, and you confirm Y by [deadline]." 11) Follow Up with Purpose, Not Pressure "Just checking in again!" "I wanted to follow up on this. Do you need any additional details from me?" 12) Avoid Passive-Aggressive Language "As I mentioned before…" "Just bringing this back in case it got missed."

Unlock the Power of High-Quality Performance Reviews 'Tis the season for annual performance reviews. They are dreaded by some (both managers and direct reports alike), but a GOLDEN opportunity for growth, alignment and acceleration when done right! When I became a people manager for the first time I had no formal training on how to do a formal performance evaluation which made it more an intimidating and time consuming process than effective. It took me a while to develop some best practices which I still use today. Here are some actionable tips for how to make these conversations transformative instead of transactional: Best Practices for Managers: 1️⃣ Make it a Dialogue, Not a Monologue: Listen as much as you speak. Performance reviews should be a two-way street. 2️⃣ Focus on Specifics: Give actionable, evidence-based feedback tied to clear examples—not vague generalizations. 3️⃣ Balance Praise with Growth Opportunities: Celebrate wins but also highlight areas for improvement with a clear path forward. 4️⃣ Set Goals, Not Just Grades: Use reviews to align on SMART goals for the future. 5️⃣ Document & Follow Up: Don’t let feedback vanish post-meeting. Document outcomes and revisit them regularly. Common Mistakes to Avoid: 🚫 Waiting Until Review Time: Feedback should be ongoing—not a once-a-year surprise. 🚫 Being Too General: Saying "Good job" or "Needs improvement" without specifics leaves employees guessing. 🚫 Avoiding Tough Conversations: Constructive feedback can be uncomfortable, but it’s essential for growth. 🚫 Ignoring Employee Input: This isn’t just your show—make space for their perspective! Tips for Employees: Get Better Feedback 1️⃣ Be Proactive: Ask for feedback regularly—not just during reviews. Questions like, “What’s one thing I could do better?” shows initiative and openness. 2️⃣ Come Prepared: Bring accomplishments, challenges, and goals to the table. Show ownership of your growth. 3️⃣ Clarify Expectations: Ask, “What does success look like in my role / on this project?" This helps align your work with manager expectations. Year-Round Impact ✔️ Schedule Regular Check-Ins: Quarterly or monthly conversations keep feedback fresh and actionable. ✔️ Use Tools to Track Progress: Utilize shared documents or platforms to monitor goals throughout the year. ✔️ Create a Feedback Culture: Encourage real-time recognition and coaching on a weekly basis. A high-quality performance review isn’t just a meeting—it’s a tool for growth, alignment, and stronger relationships. Let’s move away from the “annual checkbox” and toward continuous improvement! What’s your secret to impactful performance reviews? Drop your tips in the comments! #Leadership #Feedback #PerformanceManagement #CareerGrowth

Leaders who avoid hard feedback aren’t protecting their people, they are setting them up to fail. Feedback is one of the most powerful tools we have in leadership but it’s also one of the most misused. Because leaders confuse compassion with avoidance, softening the truth until it loses all usefulness, or withholding it altogether under the guise of kindness. Compassionate feedback is about caring enough to be honest, in a way that allows other people to hear it. At APS Intelligence, we use a framework for compassionate feedback, designed to ensure that even difficult messages are delivered with clarity and respect: 1. Frame the feedback - Start by recognising effort and value to create psychological safety and remind people their work is seen and appreciated. 2. Ask permission - Feedback lands better when people feel like they have agency. Asking “Can I talk to you about something I’ve noticed?” is, as Dr. Shelby Hill says, a gentle knock on the door of someone’s psyche instead of barging in. 3. Be precise and objective - Describe what you’ve observed, not your interpretation of it. Feedback should focus on behaviour, not character. 4. Explain the impact - Share how the behaviour affects others or the work. Clarity about consequences builds accountability without blame. 5. Stay curious and open - Avoid assumptions. Ask questions that invite dialogue and understanding, not defence. 6. Collaborate on next steps - Offer support, not ultimatums. Feedback should be a shared problem to solve instead of a burden to bear. 7. End with perspective - Reaffirm their strengths and remind them that one issue does not define their value. Compassionate feedback allows honesty and humanity to coexist. It ensures that when people walk away, they feel respected, even if the message was hard to hear. This is a framework we use often at APS Intelligence. You can book a tailored workshop for your people managers or leadership cohorts to explore this further.

If you're setting goals to create a more inclusive workplace in 2025, my experience may save you time, money, and unmet expectations. ✅ Quick Wins (low effort, high impact) Start with team psychological safety. Inclusion is felt most in everyday team interactions—meetings, feedback, problem-solving. 👇 Use tools like: 1. The Fearless Organization Scan to uncover blind spots and team dynamics. 2. Debrief session with an accredited facilitator to discuss results openly and set clear, actionable improvements. 3. Action plan with small shifts in behavior, like leaders modeling vulnerability, asking for input first, or establishing "speak-up norms" in meetings. These micro-actions quickly build team inclusion and unlock collaboration. 🏗️ Big Projects (high effort, high impact): To create sustainable change, invest in structural inclusion. 👇 Focus on: 1. Inclusive hiring & promotion practices: build diverse candidate pipelines and train interviewers on bias mitigation. 2. Inclusive decision-making: ensure diverse perspectives are integrated into key business decisions. 3. Inclusive leadership: train leaders to actively foster diverse perspectives, intellectual humility, and trust in their teams. Empower leaders to align inclusion with business goals and make it part of their day-to-day behavior. 🎉 Fill-ins (low effort, low impact): Awareness events (like diversity month) are great for building visibility but should educate, not just celebrate. 👇 For example: 1. Pair cultural events with workshops on how diverse values shape workplace communication. 2. Use storytelling to highlight how diverse perspectives lead to tangible business wins. 🚩 Thankless Tasks (high effort, low impact): Avoid resource-heavy initiatives with little ROI. 👇 Examples: 1. Overcomplicated dashboards: focus on 2–3 actionable metrics rather than endless reports that don’t lead to change. 2. Unstructured ERGs: without clear goals and leadership support, these often become frustrating rather than empowering. 3. One-off training programs: A two-day training on unconscious bias without follow-up or practical tools is a missed opportunity. 💡 Key Takeaways 1. Inclusion thrives where it’s felt daily—in teams and decisions. 2. Start with quick wins to build momentum and tackle big projects for systemic change. 3. Avoid symbolic efforts that consume resources without measurable outcomes. 🚀 Let’s turn inclusion into a tangible, strategic advantage that empowers your teams to thrive in 2025 and beyond. _____________________________________________ If you're new here, I’m Susanna—an accredited team psychological safety practitioner with over a decade of experience in DEI and inclusive leadership. I partner with forward-thinking companies to create inclusive, high-performing workplaces where teams thrive. 📩 DM me or visit www if you want to prioritize what truly works for your organization. 

When I first asked my team for feedback, the room went SILENT. Why? Because speaking the truth felt too risky. This isn’t just my story, it’s the reality in countless workplaces. Here’s the truth: feedback is a minefield. 🔴 Done wrong? It breeds tension and mistrust. 🟢 Done right? It fixes problems—it transforms teams. Here’s how to get it right: 1/ Timing Is Everything ↳ Feedback during chaos? Disaster. Wait for a calm moment. ↳ A private 1-on-1 works best. 💡 Pro Tip: Start with a positive comment—it sets the tone. 2/ Lead With Solutions ↳ Complaints without fixes = noise. Solutions = action. ↳ Try this: “We could avoid confusion with more clarity upfront. What do you think?” 💡 Pro Tip: Frame solutions as support for the team’s success, not criticism. 3/ Be Clear, Not Cryptic ↳ Instead of “Communication could be better,” say: ↳ “Inconsistent updates slow me down. Weekly check-ins might help.” 💡 Pro Tip: Use examples to back it up—clarity builds trust. 4/ Use “I” Instead of “You” ↳ Feedback isn’t a blame game. Stick to “I” statements to share your perspective. ↳ Example: “I feel I don’t have enough autonomy to contribute fully.” 💡 Pro Tip: Highlight how solving the issue benefits the whole team. 5/ Know When to Let It Go ↳ Pick your battles. Save your energy for what really matters. ↳ Does this impact the team or my work? If not, let it go. 💡 Pro Tip: Focus feedback on what aligns with team goals. 6/ End With a Vision ↳ Great feedback doesn’t just fix problems—it builds something better. ↳ Paint the big picture: “Here’s how this change could help the team hit the next level.” 💡 Pro Tip: Vision-driven feedback inspires action. The takeaway? Feedback isn’t about proving you’re right, it’s about progress. Master these steps, and you’ll not only solve problems, but you’ll also earn respect and trust. What’s your biggest feedback fail (or win)? Share it below. 👇 ♻️ Repost to help your network get better! ➕ And follow Shulin Lee for more.

One of the biggest challenges in organisations: Communication It comes up as a pain point in almost every employee survey. And most organisations desperately want to fix it. So what do we do? We start: 📣 pushing more info updates. 📣 creating more teams channels 📣 holding more “status update” meetings We work so hard to communicate but 12 months later when we run the survey again there’s no improvement, despite all the ‘comms’. And here’s why: Communication isn’t one sided. It’s a dialogue, not a monologue. When teams say they want more communication they don’t want more status updates or teams channels. They want two way dialogue, with equal parts listening, speaking and understanding. Our people want conversation. They want to: 👉 Be heard 👉 Ask questions 👉Contribute to key decisions 👉 Understand the why behind the what. So if your team is struggling with communication, don’t default to pushing more info updates. Look for opportunities to create two way dialogue. Here’s how: 👉 Invite team members into conversation around key decisions and the strategy. 👉 replace info sharing meetings (that’s an email) with ‘Dialogue, Discussion, Debate’ meetings that facilitate two way communication and honest conversations about key issues. 👉Use your team meetings and one on ones to build shared understanding, ask questions like: “What areas are you lacking clarity at the moment? What’s confusing in our strategy right now? “What communication gaps do we have on our team at the moment and how can we solve them?” #leadership #communication #HR